How to Advocate for Your Dog in Public Spaces
A guide for big dog parents who aren’t afraid to speak up—for their dog’s sake.
Whether you're on a neighborhood walk, hitting the brewery patio, or strolling through a crowded vet lobby, one thing is clear: not everyone knows how to interact with your dog. And let’s be real—giant breeds draw a lot of attention.
But here's the truth: you’re your dog’s only advocate. You know their boundaries. You know what makes them uncomfortable. And if they could talk, they'd probably ask you to speak up on their behalf.
This post is here to help you do just that.
Why Advocacy Matters (Especially for Big Dogs)
When you’ve got a dog that’s 100+ pounds, people often assume they’re tough, bombproof, or automatically friendly. But big doesn’t mean invincible. And it doesn’t mean your dog wants to be pet, hugged, or approached by every passerby.
Many giant breed dogs are gentle souls who don’t love surprises, loud kids, or bouncy dogs in their space. Some are recovering from injuries or aging joints. Some are working through anxiety or have a history you’re helping them overcome.
Advocating for your dog’s comfort isn’t being rude. It’s being responsible.
How to Politely Say “No”
It can feel awkward to deny someone who wants to pet your dog—but it’s okay to draw that boundary.
Here are a few ways to keep it polite but firm:
- “We’re working on training, so we’re not doing greetings today—thanks for understanding!”
- “He’s a little overwhelmed right now, so we’re giving him space.”
- “She’s not super comfortable with strangers. Appreciate you giving her room!”
You don’t owe a detailed explanation. Keep it short, kind, and clear.
Use Visual Signals
If your dog needs extra space, let your gear speak for you. Tools like:
- Yellow leashes, collars, or vests (part of the “Yellow Dog Project”)
- Patches that say “Do Not Pet” or “Nervous Dog”
- Bandanas with messaging like “Give Me Space”
These visual cues help reduce unwanted interactions—especially in busy or social settings.
Teaching Kids (and Adults) Dog Manners
Kids love dogs. But not every kid knows how to act around a big one. If children approach, use the moment to guide them:
- “Can you ask first before petting? That’s how dogs know you’re a friend.”
- “He’s resting right now, so let’s give him some quiet time.”
You’re not just advocating—you’re educating. And helping raise more respectful dog lovers in the process.
Navigating Parks, Patios, and Public Events
Not every space is dog-appropriate—and not every dog is comfortable in every space. Before bringing your dog:
- Ask: Is this for them, or for me?
- Check for off-leash dogs if yours doesn’t do well with them.
- Scope out escape routes or low-traffic areas.
- Bring treats or toys to redirect attention.
And don’t hesitate to leave early if your dog seems stressed. You’re not a failure—you’re a great dog parent for listening to their needs.
It’s Not “Overprotective”—It’s Proactive
Too many dogs are put in situations that make them uncomfortable because their humans feel social pressure to be “nice.” But your job isn’t to please strangers—it’s to protect your dog’s emotional and physical well-being.
You know your dog best. You see the subtle signs of stress (tail tucks, lip licks, avoidance). You notice when they’re “just tolerating” something. So advocate with confidence.
The people who matter will understand—and the ones who don’t? Let them be uncomfortable.
A Final Word from the Big Dog People
At The Big Damn Dog Co., we believe your big dog deserves big respect—and that starts with boundaries.
You’re not “that dog parent.” You’re a hero in their eyes. Keep standing up for them, one polite “no” at a time.
